Sonja Lyubomirsky, Ph.D.
Distinguished Professor of Psychology at the University of California, Riverside
Daniel Pink
#1 New York Times bestselling author
How to Feel Loved: The Five Mindsets That Get You More of What Matters Most
Bonus Book Giveaway: FAN is giving away copies of How to Feel Loved to randomly selected Zoom attendees. Details on the webinar registration page.
Why, in an age of constant connection, do so many of us still feel lonely, anxious, or unseen? In their new book, How to Feel Loved: The Five Mindsets That Get You More of What Matters Most, Sonja Lyubomirsky, Ph.D. — the world’s preeminent expert on happiness — and Harry Reis, Ph.D., one of the world’s leading authorities on relationships and connection, reveal the simple yet powerful shifts that can transform how we experience our closest relationships.
The authors argue that the problem isn’t the number of friends we have or how busy our social calendars are — it’s that too often, our interactions don’t leave us feeling genuinely loved. We may worry that if people really knew us — our flaws alongside our strengths — their affection would disappear. Or we may quietly conclude that we’re simply not lovable enough.
How to Feel Loved offers a liberating alternative. You don’t need to reinvent yourself, impress others, or bend over backward to earn love. Instead, the key lies in shifting how you approach your next conversation. The authors present five practical mindsets that can fundamentally change the way you relate to others — habits that, with practice, will help you create relationships where you feel deeply known, valued, and loved.
Lyubomirsky is Distinguished Professor of Psychology at the University of California, Riverside, and the author of the bestselling The How of Happiness and The Myths of Happiness (published in 39 countries). She has been featured across a wide range of media, including The New York Times, The Washington Post, and The Atlantic, as well as the Today show, NPR, and CNN.
Lyubomirsky will be in conversation with Daniel Pink (FAN ’18, ’22), the author of seven bestselling nonfiction books ranging from human motivation and the science of timing to a graphic novel career guide. His deeply researched works have been translated into 46 languages and have sold more than five million copies worldwide.
This event is suitable for youth ages 12 and up. It will be recorded and available on FAN’s website and YouTube channel.
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